If You Love Yourself, Don't Let Resentments Last: Wise Advice from Badiuzzaman Said Nursi

If you truly love yourself, don't allow hostility and resentment, which are so dangerous to your personal life, to enter your heart. Even if they have already entered and taken root within you, you should ignore them.

Think about the following words of al-Hâfizh Shirazî, a figure who has basirah who is able to penetrate the depths of nature:

دنيا نه متاعيستى كه أرزد بنزاعى
In fact, the world and its contents are not valuable objects worth fighting over.

If the world and its contents are not worth that much, how much more so are the small things? Consider his words:

آسايش دو كيتى تفسير اين or
بادويتان مروت با دشمنان مدارا
Peace and safety in both worlds depend on two things:
Nobility towards friends, as well as wise treatment towards opponents.

Perhaps you'll say, "That's beyond my power. Because hostility has already been ingrained in my nature. I have no other choice. Besides, they've hurt my feelings and caused me harm, so I can't forgive them."“

The answer: If bad morals do not manifest in the form of actions and do not become the basis for an action such as gossip for example, and the perpetrator is aware of his mistake, then it is not dangerous.

As long as you have no other choice in the matter, and you cannot avoid the hostility, then the awareness of your shortcomings and mistakes will free you—with Allah's permission—from the bad consequences of the hostility that is embedded in you. Because, it is considered as implicit regret, hidden repentance, and ask for forgiveness meaningful.

We wrote this discussion to obtain ask for forgiveness which is meaningful, so that believers do not consider falsehood to be truth, and do not show falsehood to their opponents who are actually on the right side.

I once experienced a case worth pondering. One day, I saw a scientist criticize a cleric, even to the point of declaring him an infidel. His criticism stemmed from a disagreement between the two on a matter of faith. political. However, at the same time, the scientist praised a hypocrite who shared his political views.

This incident really shook me. Then I said:

God willing
I seek refuge in Allah from the temptations of Satan and political slander.

Since then, I have withdrawn from the political arena.

Bediuzzaman Said Nursi, Al-Maktûbât, p. 448–450

Such is the advice and reflections offered by Badiuzzaman Said Nursi. The examples Nursi presented above, regarding hostility, resentment, disputes, and differences in political views, have the potential to severely damage relationships between siblings, family, friends, and each other.

Isn't this already happening in our society? Siblings don't greet each other because of differing political parties or political opinions. Or, because they don't communicate effectively when they pass each other or meet. The fruits of these differences are hostility, resentment, and strife. And this is very dangerous, capable of destroying the heart and piercing the heart.

Raise your mind, soften your heart, towards friends and enemies. That is more noble, even though it is heavy and impossible done, except with a heart that is truly clean and sincere because it hopes consent Allah SWT.

And Allah knows best