What is Ghibah?
Ghîbah is saying something about someone that they don't like when they hear it. It can be said verbally or in writing, with eye, hand and head signals. Guard your tongue from ghîbah and listen ghîbah. Silence from listening ghîbah is a form of your agreement about what is being discussed.
In other words, ghîbah This means revealing or exposing another person's faults, such as physical defects, lineage, actions, words, religion, or possessions, such as their house, clothes, jewelry, or pets.
Thus, ghîbah is bolting zalîm even though what you say is true. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
"If you have shortcomings in yourself as you say, then you have committed backbiting (backbiting) and if there are none, it means you have slandered him."
Therefore, take care of yourself from ghîbah accompanied by Riyâ', namely directly exposing someone's faults by mentioning their name, as if you were a pious person who felt sorrow for another person's condition, whether the person was dead or still alive.
This act, including the type backbiting the worst. Including praising yourself by criticizing other people. in the sense of considering yourself better than other people by criticizing and demeaning them. According to Imam Nawawi, backbiting is mentioning other people's bad things when he is not present during the conversation. (Syarh Sahih Muslim, 16: 129).
In this way, you have done two bad things: backbiting and self-praise. Even four evils at once, namely; backbiting, self-praise, riyâ' and because of your stupidity think you are a pious person, as if you were the best.
قَالَ « أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْغِيبَةُ ». قَالُوا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ. قَالَ « ذِكْرُكَ أَخَاكَ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ ». « مَا تَقُولُ فَقَدِ اغْتَبْتَهُ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِيهِ فَقَدْ بَهَتَّهُ »
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you know what gh is?îbah?” They answered, "Allah and His Messenger know better." He said, “You mentioned bad things about your brother that he didn't like other people to hear.” He was asked, "What if what is said is true?" The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "If it is true, it means you have betrayed it. If it doesn't match, then you have slandered him." (HR. Muslim no. 2589).
Therefore, whoever worships in ignorance will certainly be played by Satan, so that he will mention the badness and shortcomings of others, even bringing up the name of Allah to convince others about the badness. Na'uzubillâh
If you feel sad, sorry for your brother, don't talk about it. Pray for goodness in your prayers for him. Spread good news about him. If necessary, praise his kindness, even if it is small. Don't belittle or look for weaknesses and ugliness.
Sufficient for you is Allah's warning in the Qur'an, surah al-Hujârât verse 12.
"And do not backbite one another. Is there anyone among you who likes to eat the flesh of his dead brother? And of course you feel disgusted by him" (QS. Al-Hujârât verse 12).
Allah makes an example of the person who does it backbiting like people eating human corpses. In this parable, there is a hint of human honor like his own flesh and blood. Humans will be hurt if their honor is hurt. Just as his body feels pain when his flesh is cut.
How to Stay Away Backbiting Or Gossip
How to avoid and stay away from disease ghîbah is; you should think and look at yourself. Think about your own disgrace and shortcomings. Is it true that you have never disobeyed Allah?
Quick ask for forgiveness, seek refuge and refuge in Allah if Satan invites you to do so ghîbah. If the temptation is stronger than you, then immediately praise your brother's goodness. Don't get lost in the conversation, listen to the challenge. ghîbah.
Think carefully about what you want to say. Is it potentially offensive or hurtful for your sibling to hear? You should always mention the name of Allah, for it is a medicine.
It crossed my mind to do backbiting is the first step of Satan when realizing it or when doing it. Therefore, the mind must be guarded, so that the path to sin in the mind is sterile from suspicions or assumptions that lead to actions. backbiting.
Imam an-Nawawi in the book al-Adzkâr state “Whatever comes to your mind like ghîbah and other sinful acts you must get rid of and eliminate as much as you can!”
This quote is in the book Marâqi al-Ubudiyyâh, Works of Sheikh Nawawi al-Bantani, pp. 232-236
Wallahua'lam bish Shawâb
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