“"“Muslim parents should never be fooled by the "rubbish" statements above. These "rubbish" statements are fatal if parents are "weak," "careless," or "defeated" in educating their children. When parents are "careless," this is the beginning of the destruction of tarbiyah (Islamic education) in our families.”"” (Fadhil S. Hadi)
The onslaught of foreign cultures such as; hedonistic, materialistic lifestyle, flexing (showing off), free association (free live, free love, free sex) This is a common occurrence in modern society. The onslaught of modern culture, transferred into Muslim culture, forces Muslims, as the object of the attack, to take action.
Of course, this cultural onslaught has been carefully planned to destroy and weaken the next generation of Muslims. Undeniably, the onslaught and hegemony of foreign culture are being intensified to loosen the grip of "parents" in educating, nurturing, protecting, and advising their children, so that they don't become too... all out (desperately).
Many statements such as; "There is no need to educate children harshly, they must be gentle. You must not give punishment to children, just give them advice. Parents must not be angry if the child makes a mistake, just leave it alone, so that the child learns from his mistakes. Understand the child's condition and mentality when he is a teenager. Let the child be free to find his identity. Don't restrain him." Etc.
We often see the above statements on television, discussions, seminars, events. parenting and whispered softly into the parent's ear. Unconsciously, it provokes parents to reflect on the parenting patterns that have been applied to their children. In the end, parents will regret, be sad, lament their mistakes in educating their children.
On one hand, the above statement is true. However, it emphasizes parents who are negligent and don't pay any attention to their children's parenting style. To begin building good communication, these "negligent" parents are welcome to use the methods above. This serves as a gateway to opening their attention to their children.
In a different situation, Muslim parents should never be fooled by the "rubbish" statements above. These "rubbish" statements are fatal if parents are "weak," "careless," or "defeated" in raising their children. When parents are "careless," this is the beginning of destruction. education in our family.
If the child is wrong, then parents must punish the child wisely. Punish the child accordingly. Don't punish using your hands or feet. However, look for objects that are neither hard nor soft. Then, read it Bismillah When giving punishment, intend the punishment to teach him a lesson for the mistake he made.
مُرُوْا أَوْلَادَكُمْ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَهُمْ أَبْنَاءُ سَبْعِ God bless you God bless you
“"Order your children to pray when they are seven years old! And beat them when they are ten years old (if they miss prayer). And separate their beds (between boys and girls).".). (HR. Abu Dawud, no. 495; Ahmad, II/180, 187)
Ali bin Abi Talib, Radhiyallahu anhu, said, "That is, teach them manners and knowledge.[1] In another history, Imam ash-Shafi'i (died 204 H) said, “"It is obligatory for fathers and mothers to educate and teach their children adab, and it is obligatory to teach them how to purify (ablution, bathing, etc.) and (procedures for) prayer. It is permissible for parents to hit their children if they understand (about the obligation to pray). A boy who has had a wet dream (puberty) and the daughter who has menstruation or exactly fifteen years old, then they are obliged to do it.[2]
Allah also gives warnings to parents regarding what they will inherit from their children.
وَلْيَخْشَ ٱلَّذِينَ لَوْ تَرَكُوا۟ مِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّةً ضِعَٰفًا خَافُواtroop ٱللَّهَ وَلْيَقُولُوا۟ قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا
“"And let those who fear Allah leave behind them weak children, whom they fear for their (welfare). Therefore, let them fear Allah and let them speak the right words."” (QS. An-Nisa, verse 9)
Understanding '‘weak'’ in this verse is weak faith, physical weakness, intellectual weakness (knowledge) and economic weakness. Therefore, as parents who are responsible for their children, we must pay attention to the four things indicated by the phrase "weak child." Neglecting any of these four things can lead to imbalances in the child's mental and physical well-being.
Priest Ibn Kathir in commenting on the meaning “"weak"” in this verse, focuses on the problem economy. He said that parents should not leave their children poor.[3] And it is proven, how many Muslims are willing to leave creed-his (apostasy) in this era was due to the child's economic situation which was below the poverty line.
Many parents prioritize their children's intellectual, physical, and economic development solely, neglecting their faith development. Parents are sometimes willing to do anything to ensure their children's educational needs are met, while enrolling their children in a Quranic kindergarten or TP feels "reluctant and difficult." Yet, faith is a fundamental need for children.
There are also parents who balance meeting their children's needs across the four main issues mentioned above, but their efforts in this direction are highly discriminatory and unbalanced. For example, some parents have made considerable efforts to "smarten" their children intellectually, diligently providing all the resources and infrastructure necessary to achieve this goal.
However, in their efforts to meet their children's faith needs, parents appear half-hearted, even though they have genuinely cared for their children's intellectual development. Enrolling their children in religious studies, Islamic jurisprudence (fiqh), aqidah (belief), and the like feels like a huge burden. It's a huge waste of money if their children are studying religion and Islam. What a disaster!
Therefore, some wise parents must be able to pay attention to the steps that must be taken to realize their obsession in giving birth to a child. righteous. Nothing is wasted in educating, it will definitely be rewarded with good deeds.
From now on, let's avoid being influenced by foreign ideas and cultural influences when it comes to educating our children. We, Muslims, have a well-developed concept and have successfully produced the best generation known in both the West and the East.
May Allah SWT grant us parents guidance and strength in educating, nurturing, and teaching our children in accordance with Islamic education, concepts, and methods. So that our children will not grow up to be weak physically, mentally, in faith, or financially. Amen, O Lord of the Worlds.
And Allah knows best
[1] Tafsîr Ibni Katsîr, VIII/167 and Fat-hul Qadîr, V/254
Reference : https://almanhaj.or.id/32265-perintahkan-keluargamu-untuk-mendirikan-shalat.html (Accessed, February 9, 2026) 10:00 WITA.
[2] Syarhus Sunnah, II/407, by Imam al-Baghawi.
[3] Read, Tafsir Ibn Kathir: Tinterpretation of the Qur'an al-'Adzim (تفسير القرءان العظيم), I, p. 432.
