“Maximum parental education and teaching for children is the best way to reduce violence and punishment in the world of education.” Fadhil S. Hadi
One morning in a housing complex in the United States, two parents were seen shaking hands with their child as they said goodbye to go to school. The mother and father then kissed their child's forehead, prayed for them, and sent them off.
That's the family's morning ritual before sending their child off to school. The mother and father always send their child off with a prayer and a smile. They wave goodbye while saying goodbye. “"Take care my son and God bless you."” While running a little the child answered “Okay Mom, love you Dad!”
After further investigation, it turned out they were a Muslim family living in a housing complex in America. They engaged in this activity every day. A strange phenomenon for a society and individual American citizen, who are generally secular.
Unbeknownst to them, the ritual of shaking hands, kissing, and praying for their child as they sent him off to school caught the attention of their neighbors, an American family. The American neighbors couldn't hide their emotion and jealousy at the Muslim family's morning ritual.
They always observe the Muslim family's morning rituals from their window. The American family also has a child who studies at a desk. senior high school (Senior High School). And now, they have two children who are 3 years old.
On a holiday, an American family approached a Muslim family and asked about the "strange" thing they always did in the morning. The American mother bluntly said, “"Teach me the way, how to teach your children. Can I send maybe children later to your school"? "Teach me how to raise a child like you do. Can I send my child to the same school your child attends?" said the American mother.
Dear readers
The story above represents the reality that affects families in America. While the rituals of Muslim families sending off their children may seem simple, the reality of different circumstances is that they have profound consequences, not only for the family itself but also for other families.
The simple role of parents is a manifestation of their high hopes for the education their children should receive. Parents' hopes for their children are strongly supported by the teachers who provide instruction and education at school. Children must be taught to obey both their parents and their teachers.
Obedience to parents and teachers is a primordial (basic) skill and education that must be instilled in children. This discipline of obedience is the first discipline that must be taught. If parents fail to instill this discipline in children, the teachers at school will feel the impact.
We've witnessed a slew of cases recently, including teachers slapping students for smoking, fighting, or not doing their homework. This issue has been ongoing, and teachers are always the victims. Teachers rarely receive support when assaults occur. They tend to be blamed, sued, or even reported to the authorities.
Under the pretext of student abuse, etc. However, upon closer examination, children who violate rules tend to lack the discipline of "obedience" that parents should teach. A lack of obedience can lead to rebellion, resistance, and a lack of discipline.
Regarding punishment, in Islamic education, it is permissible, but it must first be practiced in obedience, compliance, and discipline. Punishment is not imposed without reason, but rather through a process of habituation and proper discipline training.
مُرُوْا أَوْلَادَكُمْ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَهُمْ أَبْنَاءُ سَبْعِ God bless you God bless you
“"Order your children to pray when they are seven years old! And beat them when they are ten years old (if they miss prayer). And separate their beds (between boys and girls).". (Narrated by Abu Dawud, No. 495)
Punishment exists because of the loss of obedience and discipline. Obedience and discipline are fostered through punishment. Punishment, in this case, shouldn't be interpreted narrowly, using wood, bamboo, or other hard objects; that's not the point. Rather, punishment fosters obedience and discipline, which has the effect of awakening the hearts and souls of students.
Teach your children obedience, faithfulness, and discipline so they grow up with awareness. Don't underestimate the importance of teaching goodness, even the simplest things, because simple things are priceless.
Sticking students isn't entirely due to teacher resentment, but rather to parents who haven't fully taught and nurtured their children to be obedient, compliant, and disciplined. Optimal parental education and teaching is the best way to reduce violence and punishment in the educational system.
And Allah knows bestâm bish shawââb
